A marriage and family therapist, Chidi A. Okoroafor, has criticized men who rely on social media for guidance on how to treat women.
Expressing concern, he said he has been “seriously worried about the rapidly dwindling quality of men” and blamed it on the type of advice many men consume online. He particularly condemned married men who take relationship tips from young, inexperienced single men.
Okoroafor urged single women to carefully vet the men they allow into their lives, warning them against marrying “confused men” who draw direction from misguided influencers.
He added that he was grateful his own sons do not follow or listen to men who disrespect women on social media.
In a lengthy post, he wrote in part:
“Imagine me, an Igbo Odogwu, going to sit down to be lectured by a small Urhobo boy of my son’s age on how to treat women. What does he know about women or relationships? Someone sent me one of his videos where he was saying, ‘Don’t take the financial responsibility of any woman, not your girlfriend, not even your wife.’ I’ve been seriously worried about the rapidly dwindling quality of men. If you take away the p£nis, many men have nothing else to offer a woman.”
He argued that society has reduced manhood to money alone, leaving many men lacking in character — and often without money as well. According to him, some of these men waste their time in betting shops, football viewing centres, and beer parlours, while women dominate the markets and businesses.
Okoroafor also stressed that many of the same men making noise online are financially dependent on women, neglect their children, or are being fed by their wives.
To women, he advised: “As some of you are already developing yourselves, make sure that you don’t marry down. Don’t build a career, a business, or a skill, only to settle for a confused man who takes lectures from a boy more confused than himself. That’s the blind leading the blind.”
He concluded by saying he pays no attention to such “Gehgeh university” platforms and prefers to focus on learning from successful role models.